Lewis Carroll? Charles L. Dodgson? Ellen Terry? Anonymous?
Question for Quote Investigator: Altruists believe that the following is a deep insight about life:
What is truly worth doing is what we do for others.
Lewis Carroll, the famous creator of “Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland” apparently said something like this. Would you please help me to find a citation?
Reply from Quote Investigator: In 1890 Lewis Carroll (the pseudonym of English author and mathematician Charles Lutwidge Dodgson) wrote a letter to the popular English actress Ellen Terry who had performed a favor for him. Boldface added to excerpts by QI:1
And so you have found out that secret — one of the deep secrets of Life — that all, that is really worth the doing, is what we do for others? Even as the old adage tells us, “What I spent, that I lost; what I gave, that I had.”
Casuists have tried to twist “doing good” into another form of “doing evil,” and have said “you get pleasure yourself by giving this pleasure to another: so it is merely a refined kind of selfishness, as your own pleasure is a motive for what you do.”
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