Jesse Carr? Margaret Thatcher? Anonymous?

Question for Quote Investigator: Positive self-descriptions are sometimes inaccurate. Here are three versions of a saying which illustrates this insight:
(1) Power is like being a lady—if you have to tell them you are, you ain’t.
(2) Being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you ain’t.
(3) Being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you aren’t.
In this context, the term “lady” means a woman of refinement or superior social status. This remark has been attributed to U.S. labor union leader Jesse Carr and U.K. Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher. Would you please explore the provenance of this saying?
Reply from Quote Investigator: The earliest match found by QI appeared in the “Fairbanks Daily News-Miner” of Fairbanks, Alaska in October 1975. The words were attributed to Jesse Carr, but the quotation was indirect. Boldface added to excerpts by QI:1
A friend of Jesse L. Carr says the Teamster leader has a saying that goes, “Power is like being a lady—if you have to tell them you are, you ain’t.”
The next earliest citation known to QI appeared in “Newsweek” magazine in September 1976. The statement was presented as a direct quotation from Carr at the beginning of an article about the labor leader:2
“Being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you ain’t …
— Jesse Carr, head of Teamsters Union Local 959, Anchorage
Based on the citations listed above, QI believes that Jesse Carr deserves credit for this remark. The version in “Newsweek” is probably the most accurate. Margaret Thatcher received credit by 1984, but the saying was already in circulation. Also, QI has not found any citation displaying a direct quotation from Thatcher.
Below are additional selected citations in chronological order.
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